Wedding vows are an important part of a marriage ceremony. They are promises you plan to keep with your spouse throughout your marriage, and we believe vows should be personal.
Here’s how to write wedding vows your significant other will love.
Don’t Be Afraid To Look At Example Vows
Vows have been around for a LONG time, and because of that, there have been all sorts of sayings, quotes, and promises said over the years. There are plenty of resources out there that compile them for you to have a starting point.
By taking a look at some wedding vow ideas that already exist, it will allow you to modify vows rather than create them from scratch. This will prevent writer’s block.
Action Tip: Go grab your favorite vow idea and move on to the next step!
P.S. There’s an app for that: check out our Top Wedding Apps page to check out some awesome apps and sites that will help you write wedding vows.
Use Inside Jokes
Vows are meant to be read to your significant other. So it’s okay to mention things that you two have experienced together, even if no one else gets it. This will further personalize your message and put a smile on your soon-to-be spouse’s face.
Action Tip: Think of a few things you and your spouse have experienced together and how you can sum up the experience into a sentence or two. Be sure to include them when you are putting together your vows.
After all, you are the person they fell in love with in the first place!
Remember when we mentioned to look at examples of vows? Well, we want to make sure that you don’t feel you have to write your vows a certain way just because that’s the way the example had it. If you like the content but think it’s not the right tone, change it!
The last thing you want to do is read your spouse your vows that don’t even sound like something you’d say. They fell in love with you, so make sure your vows express yourself!
Action Tip: Write your vows using your tone of voice. If an example is written differently than how you’d say it, change it!
Check With Your Officiant Before Finalizing Your Vows
This is just precautionary, but some traditions and religions have rules about what can be said in wedding vows, and sometimes won’t allow personal vows to be read at all (this is rare, but double-check just in case!).
Keep in mind that some officiants will want to read your vows prior to the wedding, so make sure you don’t wait until last minute to get them done!
Bonus Tip: Practice Reading Your Vows!
Once you’ve completed your vows, it’s time to read them out loud. This helps for a couple of reasons.
First, it will allow you to hear how your vows flow. A lot of times we think that something will sound proper while we are reading, but saying that same sentence out loud doesn’t sound right. So make sure you listen to how your vows sound while reading.
The other reason practicing is good for you is to keep a nice pace. It isn’t uncommon for us to read things really fast, forget to project our voice, or even mumble while we read out loud. This is especially true when we are in front of crowds. By practicing you will be able to pace yourself, speak clearly and speak loudly enough for everyone to hear.
Go Write Your Vows!
Now that you’ve read how to write your own vows, it’s time to get started! Remember to follow the steps in this guide, and check with your officiant early so that you have time to make any changes if necessary.
So get writing and have fun with it!