Weddings are always a social affair. Even the most modest weddings need at least three people present: the bride, the groom, and the officiant (i.e., priest, pastor, rabbi, celebrant, etc.). Next to those three is the best man, usually chosen by the groom.
Now, grooms may have an idea of who they’ll pick as their best man and groomsmen, they may be lost as to what tasks to give their buddies. For those unfortunate fellows, here are a few considerations when delegating tasks to the best man and groomsmen:
Have the Best Man Prepare a Speech
Traditionally, best men are tasked to give a speech during the wedding. The “best man speech” is usually funny and short, describing some traits of the bride and groom and telling jokes to reenergize the mood of the celebrants and guests. That means that the best man should be charismatic and well-spoken.
Of course, even if the best man isn’t all that, they can still give an awesome speech. It’s the perfect time for them to tease their best friend in front of their newly wedded wife, so long as they keep it in good, harmless humor. The best man can keep their toast focused on wishing the couple a happy life ahead.
Let the Best Man Become Privy to the Wedding Plans
The best man acts as the right-hand man, confidante, and “brother” to the groom, often giving advice and helping them decide on specifics to the wedding plans. The best man can even suggest some unique gift ideas for the groomsmen in case the groom still hasn’t chosen any yet.
The best man, being the head of the groom’s entourage, may also be the one to handle some pre-wedding preparations. They can check with each groomsman if they are ready with their outfit and accommodation, as well as oversee the decorations of the event.
Instruct the Groomsmen to Guide Guests
The groomsmen’s traditional role is to orient guests to their seats and to generally be helpful to the guests and the couple-to-be-married before, during, after the wedding. That’s why groomsmen are also known as “ushers,” and even though weddings today usually hire chaperones, the responsibility of the groomsmen still stays the same.
As such, it’s not silly for a groom to ask their groomsmen to stand at the wedding entrance and escort guests to their seats. That’s their job, after all.
Leave It to the Best Man and Groomsmen to Arrange a Party
A stag do, also known as a bachelor party, celebrates the groom’s remaining moments of single life. It’s usually held a week before the wedding.
The groom and the best man can decide to do a stag do, but since the groom may be busy with the wedding preparations, it’s up to the best man to organize the bachelor party. They can ask the rest of the groomsmen to help as well.
Whatever Happens, Trust in the Best Man
Plans leading to the wedding usually change, and the closer the special day approaches, the more hectic things become. But the good thing is that the best man and the groomsmen will always be there for the groom. Any hurdle or hesitation the groom faces, the gang will be there to help them get over it. So, grooms, always trust in your best man; trust in your best friend.